Chelsea Handler hasn’t spoken to ex Jo Koy in “a while” after their split earlier this year.
The comedian said the couple – who were longtime friends before they started dating in 2021 – can’t mend their friendship until Koy takes “responsibility” for his part in their split.
“I mean, there has to be some responsibility, you know what I mean? Like, from him about what happened, because it was just ridiculous,” Handler, 47, said in “Now What? by Brooke Shields. podcast Tuesday.
“I don’t think we can have a friendship until there’s accountability and accountability.”
While she didn’t divulge exactly what Koy, 51, didn’t take responsibility for, the stand-up comic explained that their relationship had “devolved” in the 11 months they were together.
“There were just certain behaviors that we couldn’t agree on,” Handler explained. “And I felt like I should surrender, which maybe I could have done if I was 20 or 25. But I wasn’t willing to do that.”
The former ‘Chelsea Lately’ host went on to say that although she “loved him so much” she was “not going to give up on herself.”
“I was like, ‘I’m not going to change the way I behave to make you feel more comfortable. I’m not doing this,'” she shared.
“I had to walk away from something that I really thought was a forever relationship.”
Handler added that the couple couldn’t agree on “several situations” and that while she thought therapy might help, “it didn’t.”
Ultimately, she said at the end that it became clear that Koy was not her “person”.
“Getting away from him was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do,” she said.
Koy and Handler called it quits in July 2022, with the “Life Will Be the Death of Me” author announcing the couple were “taking a break.”
That same month, Handler revealed on another podcast that the couple broke up because “you can’t intrinsically change a person.”